Politely Refusing More Food at a Village Home
A short Nepali dialogue showing how to refuse a fourth helping of dal bhat without offending a Nepali host. The polite 'no, thank you' protocol.
The situation
A homestay in Ghandruk, Annapurna foothills. The grandmother has been refilling your plate every time it nears empty. You're at three helpings and physically cannot continue. This is how you stop without insulting the family.
The dialogue
Host
More rice, brother? Just a little.
? ।
Arū bhāt dai? Alikati.
Tourist
Enough, thank you. I'm full.
, ।
Pugyo, dhanyabād.
Host
But you have eaten so little! One spoon of dal.
! ।
Tara tapãĩle dherai thorai khānubhayo! Ek chamchā dāl.
Tourist
No thank you, I don't need it. The food was very delicious.
, । ।
Pardaina, dhanyabād. Khānā dherai mīṭho thiyo.
Host
Are you sure? A little dal goes well.
? ।
Pakkā? Alikati dāl rāmro hunchha.
Tourist
Truly enough. Thank you, mother.
। , ।
Sā̃chchai pugyo. Dhanyabād, āmā.
Comprehension check
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Cultural notes
Nepali hosts will offer food two or three times after your first refusal — accepting only on the third offer is the rural standard. Saying 'pugyo' is the firm stop.
Cover the plate gently with your right hand as you say 'pugyo' — the gesture reinforces the verbal refusal.
Calling the host 'āmā' (mother) or 'didi' (older sister) is the warm sign-off — and softens any refusal.
If you genuinely cannot finish what's already on your plate, leave it. An empty plate signals you want more; a few grains say enough.
Phrases from this dialogue
Each phrase as a stand-alone reference — open for the full pronunciation and cultural context.
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पुग्यो, धन्यवाद
I'm full, thank you
Pugyo, dhanyabād
पर्दैन, धन्यवाद
No thank you, I don't need it
Pardaina, dhanyabād
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धन्यवाद
Thank you
Dhanyabaad
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आमा, बुवा, दाइ, दिदी
Mother, father, brother, sister
Aama, Buwa, Dai, Didi